With all this talk about YOUR goal, and YOUR path, it’s easy to get tunnel vision, and forget or ignore what you can do for others, who may also be trying to change their paths, make different choices, and achieve their goals. We need to remember to assist each other, and help each other out. If you can help a co-worker or classmate, or friend with a project or task, by all means, DO IT! You are not only helping them accomplish their goal, but you are also helping yourself. Your contribution does not go unnoticed, and it is thoughtfully accepted, and greatly appreciated; and next time, you will have a supporter and contributor for your projects for the future. Although, if, on the off chance, your contribution is not appreciated and you no gratitude is noticed, then next time perhaps don’t assist, unless you have plenty of time to do so.
Now, I want to take the time to talk about a phenomenon, that has happened to me personally. It is about assistance and helping (or NOT, as this case is) others in the work place, from/to a specific type of person/s… Women in high-level positions, assisting other women. I am a woman, an educated woman, not young (but not too old either), and I have felt the opposite of assistance in my past experiences. I was not only, not assisted in my career, but deterred, and my requests for additional projects and responsibilities ignored, this all from another woman, in a high-level position, who had the ability to assist me in my goals, but chose to take a different course. I believe I know her reasons, and I can continue to speculate them, but in the end, all that matters, is that I, and other women, should NOT continue this unfortunate practice of holding our comrades down. We must collaborate with them, all of them, the hims, and the HERS. We all have goals we want to achieve and receiving help along the way, always makes the ride more enjoyable, and feel that much shorter.
So go forth, stay your course, and if you can help others along the way, by all means do so (especially you ladies!), it won’t go unnoticed.
“The more women help one another, the more we help ourselves. Acting like a coalition truly does produce results. Any coalition of support must also include men, many of whom care about gender inequality as much as women do.” ~ Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead